... and a website.
And started a photographic project which seems to be growing in exponential directions… fphucknose where… but nowhere I’d expected. I return to “I don’t know” again & again, & it is not a get out, oh no, it’s the way in. If I get lost? What’s to loose? I’m so fucking old I know that I can find a way, even when it’s foggy. And it’s opposite of Certainty. My father had a couple of simple phrases… he was an actor who was ordained a C of E priest. He had a brilliant sense of humour, about most things. I asked him once, ”what’s the opposite of compassion?”, he didn’t even break stride, “indifference” bounced straight back. Very cool, that’s why he became a priest. Ok, clever clogs, “what’s the opposite of faith?” (slam-dunk) “Certainty!!”. Being this age at this moment, or, being me at this moment, I see scared and insecure folk being blamed for wrecking the NHS with non-emergencies blocking up A&E. If the normal channels of uncertainty and inquiry, like “what do you think might be the reason for this pain in my arm?”, have dried up… like a dust devilled stream… you take your uncertainty to the certain people – paramedics, hospitals. I have worked with paramedics, they are truly amazing, if I could be that sure about one single thing in my life… they know stuff. They save lives… so of course they are the ones people turn to when they don’t know what’s wrong with them. They used to take uncertainty and fear to all the boarded up, failed community resources… but they failed.
Who else offers certainty? Farage May Trump Brexit. Good list! They all pretend to be certain of the truth, it’s bollocks. The flip side of certainty is Faith. Difficult word, Faith, tricky idea, but at core it’s not a thing, it’s a process. Faith demands questioning everything every moment, and then asking it again. It is a process of living, based upon investigating everything that comes at you. It demands engagement, intimacy and commitment. It demands compassion and kindness and it can create meaning.
The science of knowing is called epistemology (I’m impressed too), it is the studying of how knowing stuff works and why it is works. About how decisions & choices are made.
How are choices made? They are made in the Gap… a character enters a scene: they bring with them a set of expectations and wants. The heart of drama is conflict, so expectations and wants are always thwarted, and the character has to choose what to do next. This is the Gap, the space that opens up between expectation and reality, between fantasy and truth. And the Gap is where we all live, all the time, choosing what to do next. It is a difficult place to live, constantly ‘in the moment’, constantly awake. Avoidence strategies develop, the ability to live ‘as if’ certain circumstances were true, as if we were rich, beautiful, loveable, acne free, anything but normal, ordinary, always here in this moment.
‘Feels like’: there are all those visceral sensations my body creates in response to any number of stimulae. The conclusion I am coming to is that my body has a reaction to fear, desire, rage, excitement… etc etc… except that the physical reaction is pretty much the same whatever is going on, a bottomless pit of gaping, yawning oof! somewhere near my belly button. It’s not that discriminating, as sensations go, and yet I go to enormous lengths to either supress or satisfy this need, granting detailed diagnosis. For years it was cigarettes, that has gone thank god, but the sensations stick around. It would be handy if it was a range of perceptive, useful reactions. It’s not. It’s a pretty standard, across-the-board single reaction to most stuff that happens. A kind of ‘flump-flumpety-flump’ feeling, somewhere low down. So, the lesson is not to invest it with enormous perceptivity or accuracy – it’s just that reaction thing-that-happens when other stuff happens. Deal with it. The other way lies addiction: becoming addicted to suppressing or indulging feelings. After a point the feelings become the crutch, the reason, the quest. What can I do that creates ‘that’ feeling? And then the next sensation is ‘feeling’ invisible and worthless if the feelings can’t be conjured up. And you‘re in… slam dunkeroo… dealing with addiction as tight to your skin as a leapordskin onesie. It seems impossible to share, discuss, put out there. So, round it goes. Invisibility sanctions pushing feelings to higher extremes, because you can do anything when no one sees you. Numbness & insubstantialness hold hands. All for a feeling.
Two days running last week I ran into two contemporary directors. Both men I had shared open plan offices with. Both men I respect and felt threatened by in the past. Both of them, independently of each other, told me how invisible they felt they had become. It’s sad we are all the same predicament, and a MASSIVE relief. Sharing invisibility.